Couples in love, COUPLE IN LOVE

My Idea #1

If you have spent any amount of time online looking for information and advice on relationships, you will probably have seen more than one article written on the topic of how to make a man commit. This seems to be a common problem that many women face; getting the man of their dreams to feel the same way and want to move the relationship forward.

The problem is that you can’t “make” anyone do anything they don’t want to do. This includes how to make a man commit. So, where does that leave you?

The truth is that there are some things you can do to find a guy who wants to commit and take your relationship to the next level, he just may  not be the guy you are with right now.

That is the hard truth that some women will need to face. Not all guys want to commit and, sorry to be blunt, not all guys will necessarily want to commit to your relationship. That’s not to say that there is anything wrong with you, there is not. But, we can’t help who we love. There is no rhyme nor reason to love, the heart wants what the heart wants.

That is the reason you can’t make someone propose, commit or even love you. He either will or he won’t and even he can’t really control it.

Sure, he can decide when the right time to propose might be but if he isn’t feeling like he wants to propose at all he can’t make himself love more than he already does (just like you can’t “force” yourself to love someone or feel an attraction to someone you don’t).

But, instead of getting discouraged this fact should fill you with hope. If you are in a relationship with someone and you’ve been together for a long while, say a year or more, and he still seems very reluctant to move things forward even though you’ve made it clear you want to, he probably is just unsure of what he really wants.

In many cases that means that he just doesn’t have the depth of feelings he thinks he should have in order to move the relationship along. And, if that is the case, there is nothing either of you can do about it.

At that point, it might be time to have a long, honest conversation about where the two of you are headed. This will be scary and probably painful but there is no point in staying in a relationship that can never really make you happy, is there?

If you’ve already tried to nudge him along gently, or hinted that you want more, or just been loving kind and patient, but still nothing happens than there really is nothing more you can do except find a man who is in love with you and wants to commit.

By narrowing your search to guys who are actively looking for more, say by signing up to a dating site that specializes in that or just asking around to your friends or co-workers, and then just being yourself you can find a guy who will fall madly in love with you.

Once that happens there will be no poking or prodding needed, nature will take it’s course and he will want to move your relationship onward and upward all on his own. To me, that is the best method of how to make a man commit.

Couples in love, LOVE LOVE LOVE

My Idea #2

I do a lot of writing and blogging online and I try to answer questions from others as often as I can. But there is one question that I have a hard time answering without getting a little upset. What is this upsetting question you may ask? It is “how to make him commit“.

Actually that isn’t the only question I have trouble with. It is any question that begins with the words “how do I make him…”.  It may be how do I make him propose, how do I make him love me or how to make him commit.

The reason I have trouble with these questions is twofold; for one thing no one can really answer that question completely. I can give you some good ideas and some tips but it’s ultimately up to you to decide what will work based on the dynamic of your relationship and the personality of you and your guy.

And, secondly, you can’t really “make” anyone do anything. Nor should you try. I am a firm believer that a good relationship is based on love, respect, friendship and honesty. None of that is in evidence if you are trying to make someone do something. That is why I tend to have a problem with that question.

Though I do understand that when someone is asking how to “make” someone do something most of the time, I hope, they don’t really mean “make”. They just want to know if there are things that can be done to move things along.

To that, my answer is yes, there are. There are simple, honest but effective things you can do that may help you help your guy move things along to where you really want them to be. It’s not about manipulation or games, just honest grown up conversation.

Here are a few things you can try to get your guy from Point A to Point B without resorting to childish games like manipulation and jealousy (things will will usually only sabotage the relationship in the long run):

1. The first things I ask when someone wants to know how to get a guy to commit is have you asked him? Many women will make the mistake of dropping hints and when their guy doesn’t respond she gets frustrated. But how often do you actually tell him what you want?

I recently saw a show that had a panel of guys  and they were answering questions about what they liked and didn’t like. One of the things they said they didn’t like was when the women in their life were trying to be subtle.

They said they would prefer that she just comes out and asks him or tells him what she wants. They all said that they aren’t really that “bright” and prefer to have things spelled out as opposed to having to guess.

So, if you think your relationship should be moving on to another stage, why not tell your guy that very thing? Ask him what he wants but tell him what you want too. His response will probably give you the answers you need, though it may not be the answer you want.

2. Make sure you aren’t rushing things. It takes a long time to really get to know someone well. Just because you think enough time has passed after only a few months, he may need more time. And that is not a bad thing.

If it has been years and he hasn’t committed it’s very likely he doesn’t want to. Even a guy who is clueless will start to want more if he feels you are “the one” for him. If he hasn’t and you have been together for years, you probably already have a pretty good idea that you won’t be able to ever figure out how to make him commit, he probably isn’t the one for you.

Couples in love, LOVING COUPLE

My Idea #3

Unfortunately, this is not the Old West. The days of putting a gun to his head and get him to commit to you are over! But are there other less felonious ways of giving your guy a subtle push in the direction you want him to go?

Possibly. You see it really depends on whether or not he wants to commit in the first place. It may seem weird but there are times when a guy does want to commit… in theory. He just may be a little nervous.

He may have reached the point where he knows he is in love with you and he knows that he is ready to be with you for the rest of his life, but he isn’t quite to the point where he can say those things out loud or take the next step.

In that type of situation a few subtle nudges may be all you need to do to get him to commit.

But, if you are with someone who is simply not ready, and probably never will be, to commit no amount of manipulations, pleading, threatening or games will accomplish your goal.

The important thing then becomes for you to recognize which type of guy your guy is. If he is the first type of guy I described: someone who is ok with the concept of commitment and who is really in love with you but is still suffering from nerves, than you can do a few things to help him see the light.

But, if he is the second type of guy I discussed: someone who is not and probably never will be (at least with you) ready to settle down you may just have to face the fact that you will be better to just move on and find someone who is.

I imagine most of us have heard stories of guys who were in long term relationships, possibly even engaged for years, but never got married only to break up, meet another woman and be married in six months.

Those types of scenarios couldn’t have been easy for the woman who waited patiently for him to be ready. It must have been very painful to realize that he just didn’t want to commit to her.

So, do yourself a favor and make sure that is not what is going on. If things are just not progressing even though you’ve made it clear you want to move forward, that is probably the situation you have and you may need to end that relationship and find another one.

But, if he is generally ready to commit you can get him to commit by just keep being yourself and letting him see how great you are and how much you love him.

Couples in love, LOVING COUPLE

My Idea #4 I don’t like so much

Sometimes the perfect guy isn’t perfect because he’s not interested in making plans. Ever wondered how Mr. Right turned into Mr. Not Right Now? A lot of women wonder if there are ways to make a man commit and the truth is, there definitely are. Both men and women can get skittish about commitment, but these situations nearly always stem from a number of common conditions.

In the first place, there is the fact that a lot of women expect the man to ask them to commit and will get upset if he does not do this. Remember, ladies – men can’t read your mind. If you want to make a man commit then you need to share your mind and get him to share his. Let’s take a closer look.

Start with Asking Questions and Really Listen to His Answers

Is he afraid of commitment because he’s been hurt in the past? Does he want to travel the world and he knows you want to stay in one city? Is he worried about the future of his job and his ability to earn an income? Is he still not over an old flame? There could be any number of reasons he is balking and if you want to change his mind then you need to know what is on his mind. Talk it out, ask questions and listen to everything he says, not just the parts you want to hear. Men often say that the woman they end up with is the ‘best listener’ in their life and their ‘personal therapist’. Take a cue from this.

Know That You Can’t Make a Man Commit by Relying on Emotional Reasoning

Pleading with him to consider marriage is likely to fail, even if you add tears. In fact, adding tears could really make him swear off commitment. Women respond to passionate statements and prefer to know their partner is thoroughly emotionally invested. Men view emotions as fleeting and want more contractual situations. Consider creating a list of benefits to commitment and perhaps even a few cons you know you’ll both need to learn to live with. Men admire fairness and they know thinking the way they do is not always fun for women. Show him you’ve done more than fantasize, show him you have a plan for a happy life together.

In the End There Are Almost Always Solutions to Make a Man Commit

You can nearly always find a way to make things work if you both want to. There may be no magic bullet to make a man fall wildly in love with you, but there are certainly some nearly magic techniques you can use to your advantage so it really does make sense to try the above tips.

Is Trying to Make a Man Commit Driving You Crazy? Don’t Hesitate, Get Help!

If you still face a struggle convincing him you have a future together and make your man commit, don’t wait. There are relationship experts such as the Girl Gets Ring author who have experience helping women get what they want. Use their help and explore what they have to offer. There is no reason to lose out on what you believe is a good thing.

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

Online Dating Advice for Women

by admin on October 19, 2012

Online dating advice for women, Romance is all around us If you are looking for love and just can’t seem to attract the right kind of guy you might want to listen up to some of this online dating advice for women. (How to Make A Man Commit )

They say there is someone out there for each of us, it’s the finding them that is the hard part and then if you do, keeping them can be even harder.

If you are a woman fully enmeshed in the dating scene but are tiring of going out every weekend and having to fight off loser after loser, choosing a dating service may be the next best step for you to take.

With so many different dating sites to choose from you might just find your Mr. Right in no time if you follow my online dating advice for women.

Here are seven things any woman should keep in mind before and during setting up her profile on a dating site:

  1. 1. Choose your new dating site carefully – Believe it or not, you do not have to settle for just a generic site anymore. You can join a site that caters to people of a certain age or even one that brings together people who love to do the same types of things, like bird watchers or horse people.

If you have a passion for something and want someone of a like mind then go for one of these sites.

  1. 2. Be safe – After you choose a site that is perfect for your wants and needs, keep your personal safety in the forefront of whatever you do from this point on. There is nothing that is more important than your safety. This cannot be stressed enough!

Never, ever agree to meet someone in any place other than a public place and let a family member or good friend know where you are at all times. If you really want to be as safe as possible, have one of these people be at the place of your meet and have them hang out there until your date is over. They can keep a watch from a distance and only intervene if a problem arises.

  1. 3. Setting up your profile – Aside from staying safe this is the next most important aspect of finding the right person for you. This is where you “sell yourself”. And I do not mean that literally, of course, but just like going to a job interview you need to show yourself in the best light possible to attract that one special person who is perfect for you.

Don’t just answer the questionnaire, take some time and think through your answers before you type them in. You want to make your profile sound as attractive as possible without embellishing any of your “assets”.

Always be as sincere and honest about yourself as you can. You are who you are and if someone is going to love you they need to see the “real” you right from the get-go. Pretending to be someone you are not will only complicate things and ruin any chance you have to find the happiness you say you want in a relationship.

  1. 4. Be confident and strong – Men like women who know what they want and are not afraid to go out and get it. So be strong and confident but don’t play “hard to get” or you won’t get…a date, that is.

Do not act all aloof either. Men also like to be needed no matter what they say. If you act like you don’t need anyone then they will accommodate you and move on to the next.

Also, don’t act too needy or clingy, especially right away. Be as respectful of his feelings as you expect him to be of yours. Keep your distance and your hands to yourself unless and until your relationship moves a level where it is acceptable to be in close contact with each other.

  1. 5. Your profile picture – Should you post a profile picture or shouldn’t you? Ask yourself one question, would you accept a date from someone whose picture you have not seen first? I dare say that you would not and you shouldn’t. At least know the face of the person you are thinking about setting up a meet with  so you won’t have any trouble finding them.

So, when you post your own picture, use one that shows the “real you” as well. You could go so far as to have one professionally made so you look your absolute best or you could post a candid photo that shows you doing something that you love to do. It really is up to you how you want to portray yourself.

  1. 6. Take it slow – Refrain from becoming too sexual too fast. Do everything in your power to get to know each other first before taking things into the bedroom.

There is a time and a place for everything so let things play out slowly and just have fun along the way.

  1. 7. Review your matches carefully – It is said that 25% of everyone “dating” online is married and looking for an extramarital affair. Do not get caught up in this type of messy situation. You want to be THE woman, not THE OTHER woman.

Also, you will most likely get a prospect or two that does not interest you in the least. Be respectful but firm when you reject them and if they become a problem report them immediately to an adviser on the site. There should be some protocol about how to specifically handle bad situations on each specific dating site.

As you can see, this online dating advice for women is pretty much just common sense stuff but even common sense stuff sometimes needs to be spelled out so it is clear and concise and can be readily understood by anyone who reads it.

Finding that perfect someone who we can spend the rest of our lives with doesn’t have to be something we only dream about. With the help of a reputable dating service it can become a reality.

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

how to make a man fall in love with you, LOVING COUPLE

If you are wondering how to make a man fall in love with you, there are some things you need to understand first, about men, that may help. (Make A Man Commit )

First, men don’t think like women do and no matter how hard you try to get them to they won’t. So, the next best thing is to learn to think like they do.

Once you have an understanding into how a man’s mind works, you will be able to figure out how to make a man fall in love with you.

This is not to say that it has to be all about him all of the time because that would be unfair and you would lose yourself in the process.

A man likes to know that the woman of his dreams understands him for who he is and still remains the strong, secure woman she is as well.

Men like to feel like they have some control over what happens in their lives. They like to feel they are productive and secure. This mostly means they want a good job so they can be good providers.

They also like to know that if they are in a relationship that the woman they have chosen will be on their side no matter what. This gives them a sense of well-being and that they are safe with you.

Relationships all take some level of work and effort. If either of you get complacent this is when the relationship becomes risky and you find you are going through a rough patch.

When a man finally does commit and says he loves you, he expects you to continue to believe it, no matter what. This is difficult to do because as women we want to hear those three little words as often as possible.

If he is secure in the relationship, he wants you to be as well, he just doesn’t want to have to tell you all of the time.

He most likely feels like he conveys his love for you by the things he does, not says. So do yourself a favor and take those little things he does into consideration and see them the way he does.

He will feel like you do understand him and he will be hooked forever.

Men and women communicate differently as well. What any woman, who wants to keep a man must realize, is the fact that women speak, on average, about 20,000 words in a day. While a man only speaks, on average, about 7,000.

That’s almost three times more for women than it is for men.

Most men I know are natural brooders. If something is bothering them, they will shut down almost and are quiet until they figure out the problem and come to some solution.

You may think that he is shutting you out when in reality he is just mulling something over that has nothing to do with you.

These are the times when you should not “bother” him with seemingly meaningless (to him) conversation. Learn to read his moods and sit back quietly until he figures whatever it is out.

Learning and using these suggestions everyday in your relationship will help you in your quest on how to make a man fall in love with you.

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

How to Get A Man to Commit to Me

by admin on October 11, 2012

how to get a man to commit, Love commitment

To learn how to get a man to commit, it’s always easier if you pick the  right man right from the start. There are never any guarantees but this approach will make it a lot easier to ensure you get the results you want. (Make A Man Commit )

To do that you can join an online dating site that focuses in on helping people find “the one”. By joining this type of site you at least know that both of you are looking for something long term. That, of course, does not guarantee that everyone you meet will be the perfect guy for you, but it will make it more likely that you meet someone special and not just meet someone who wants a casual fling.

Even though this tactic will help you get the most out of the relationships you enter into, it’s not a guarantee. For that reason I have compiled some other helpful tips to help you figure out how to get a man to commit:

1. The worst thing any woman, or anyone for that matter, can do to ruin a relationship is to come on too strong. No man is going to be comfortable feeling pressured into making a commitment. He will either be in love with you and be willing to commit to you or he won’t. You can’t force him nor should you try to.

Any relationship that starts because one party is basically forcing the other to do something they may not be ready to do, isn’t likely to last long or be very strong.

It’s much better to let things develop in their own way and in their own time frame.  

2. Let him know what you want. This may sound like a contradiction to the first point but it doesn’t have to be. There is nothing wrong with letting him know that you want to find someone special and that you are at the point in your life where you are ready to find someone to settle down with.

You don’t have to come on too strong and you can, and probably should, point out that there is no definite time frame. You may want to stay away from setting a certain time limit. Instead of saying things like “in 6 months I want to be engaged” you may want to keep it a little more open ended such as  “I’m ready to find someone special and go on to the next stage of my life”.

It still lets him know what you are looking for but it isn’t such a cut and dried type of thing and shouldn’t make him feel pressure.

3. To make him see you as a potential life partner, be a partner. Don’t let your desire to settle down be your only thought. Still maintain your independence and your own friends, that way he can picture the two of you together and see that the two of you can be together and that you have no interest in suffocating him.

Men want to be needed but don’t want to feel that their partner is needy.

4. This point goes hand in hand with point number 3; play a little hard to get. Don’t get too carried away, but letting him see that you can live your life happily on your own and that you are complete will show him that he has nothing to worry about if the two of you do take your relationship to the next level.

The best way to do this is to give him space too. Don’t freak out if he wants to go out with his friends. Just say something like “go ahead honey, have a good time” and then you head out with your friends. And don’t “accidentally” show up where he and his friends are.

Also, don’t allow yourself to get jealous or paranoid. If you can’t trust him than the last thing you should ever be doing is considering  getting more involved with him. Either he is honest and can be trusted (and is therefore someone you would want to get more involved with) or he isn’t. There is no middle ground on this point.

If he can’t be trusted move on and find someone who can be. Sorry to be blunt but the truth is that if you can’t trust him you would be foolish to stay in the relationship and to expect to move things to the next level anyway.

5. And last, but definitely not least, always be prepared to end the relationship. This sounds like odd advice, I know, but if you really want a good relationship you need to be able to walk away if and when it becomes obvious that you and your guy really aren’t as compatible as you thought you were.

If your needs aren’t being met you need to move on. Don’t waste time on a relationship that is obviously not what you thought it would be or can’t make you as happy as you thought it could.

This is such an important point and it will serve you well in many ways. For one thing being strong and independent enough to walk away if things aren’t working will send a very subtle, but powerful, message that you are an independent woman who can live on her own and can wait until the right many comes along.

This will make it obvious to your guy that he needs to be the man you want and need. It will “force” him to bring his A game and to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

This is one of the biggest mistakes most women make; they simply forget that they have to be o.k. to be on their own if they need to be. Instead they “allow” their man to treat them badly and keep coming back for more. That is the worst way to be in a relationship.

You must not allow yourself to become a door mat.

I truly believe that you can find the “one” who is right for you. These tips can help you keep  the magic strong and alive. And, these tips will help you figure out how to get a man to commit in the first place.

 

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

How to Get A Guy to Commit in A Relationship?

by admin on October 11, 2012

How to get a guy to commit, Thank you thank you thank you I was writing a test… Ah, the age old question. No, not the one about the chicken and the egg, the other age old question: how to get a guy to commit. Like the whole chicken and egg question I’m not too sure that this one has an easy answer either. (Make A Man Commit )

So, how to get a guy to commit. How can you “make” him realize that he loves you and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you?

How can you help him move on from whatever past trauma is causing him to drag his feet now? Or, a better question may be, can you help him?
There are several variables that need to be taken into consideration. This is a time where you have to be willing to put emotion aside and see things clearly.

To that end, why not enlist the aid of a good friend? Just make sure she knows that you want her honest input and that you won’t get mad no matter what she says (and you have to follow through on that promise and not get upset if she points out something you don’t want to think about or this whole exercise will be a waste of time).

One last point to keep in mind before we get started is that you must understand that you may discover some things you don’t want to discover. You may find that the relationship you are currently in really isn’t the right one for you and that to have what you really want, you may need to move on to a new relationship.

So, consider these points about that non – committal guy in your life:

1. Are you pushing him too hard, are you rushing things in your relationship? In most cases it takes time to move a relationship along to the point where one or both parties feel like it is ready for the next step.

Enough time is a relative term but in terms of a relationship allowing at least a year is probably a good idea. If you haven’t been together very long you may need to be the one who slows down and allows it more time.

2.  Is your guy reluctant to commit because of something in his past? If so, he may need to spend some time clearing up those issues. He may want to consider going to a counselor.

This isn’t something that most people like to do and men are particularly difficult about talking about how they feel. But, if he really loves you and he sees that he is hurting you, he may just man up and do what needs to be done.

Other than these points there isn’t a whole lot that can be done to make him commit to you. He simply may not love you enough to want to move things along. I am sorry if that statement hurts you but it is a possibility and you should at least consider it.

And, if you aren’t with the right man, you can find a man who wants the same things you do but not if you keep yourself stuck in a relationship that is never going to go anywhere. You have to be free to find Mr. Right, so, you may need to end things with Mr. Right Now in order to make that happen.

Finding the right guy is how to get a guy to commit, you deserve love and you can find it but no one said it would be easy!

 

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

Get Him To Commit Now And Again

by admin on October 11, 2012

Get him to commit, Smiling at All Costs Unfortunately, this is not the Old West. The days of putting a gun to his head and get him to commit to you are over! But are there other less felonious ways of giving your guy a subtle push in the direction you want him to go? (Make A Man Commit )

Possibly. You see it really depends on whether or not he wants to commit in the first place. It may seem weird but there are times when a guy does want to commit… in theory. He just may be a little nervous.

He may have reached the point where he knows he is in love with you and he knows that he is ready to be with you for the rest of his life, but he isn’t quite to the point where he can say those things out loud or take the next step.

In that type of situation a few subtle nudges may be all you need to do to get him to commit.

But, if you are with someone who is simply not ready, and probably never will be, to commit no amount of manipulations, pleading, threatening or games will accomplish your goal.

The important thing then becomes for you to recognize which type of guy your guy is. If he is the first type of guy I described: someone who is o.k. with the concept of commitment and who is really in love with you but is still suffering from nerves, than you can do a few things to help him see the light.

But, if he is the second type of guy I discussed: someone who is not and probably never will be (at least with you) ready to settle down you may just have to face the fact that you will be better to just move on and find someone who is.

I imagine most of us have heard stories of guys who were in long-term relationships, possibly even engaged for years, but never got married only to break up, meet another woman and be married in six months.

Those types of scenarios couldn’t have been easy for the woman who waited patiently for him to be ready. It must have been very painful to realize that he just didn’t want to commit to her.

So, do yourself a favor and make sure that is not what is going on. If things are just not progressing even though you’ve made it clear you want to move forward, that is probably the situation you have and you may need to end that relationship and find another one.

But, if he is generally ready to commit you can get him to commit by just keep being yourself and letting him see how great you are and how much you love him.

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

Does He Really Love Me Like He Says?

by admin on October 11, 2012

Does he really love me, He loves me

Boy, I don’t know. They say women are mysterious but for any woman who has tried to figure out what is rattling around in her guys head, I would say that guys are the real tough ones to understand. That is probably why so many women ask the question “does he really love me?”. (Make A Man Commit)

It can be tough to get the answer to that question. We know that a lot of the time men don’t like to talk about how they are feeling. I’m not sure why but I suspect they think it makes them look weak or something.

There isn’t enough room in this article to cover all that so I will just try to provide  you with some clues as to what he is really thinking and feeling.

When you are trying to decipher what your guy is feeling and you want to know “does he really love me” there do tend to be some common “tells” that guys have and if you know what to look for you may be able to find your answer.

Here are a few things to keep your eyes open for:

1.  First of all, especially with guys, remember the saying “actions speaks louder than words”. Instead of waiting to hear the words, try looking at the way he acts. This can tell you a lot about what he is thinking and feeling.

How does he treat you? Does he treat you well or does he treat you like you are disposable? If it the former at the minimum you know he has some respect for you. But, if it’s the latter and you love him, you had better be careful.

Even if he doesn’t love you the way you want him to, you would hope he is the type of guy who would treat people in his life with respect. If he doesn’t it says a lot not only about the way he feels about you specifically but about the type of person he is too.

Either way, it’s not painting a very flattering picture of the type of man he is. Time to take a step back and think about where you should go from here.

2. Does he keep in touch with you? There can be a fine line between love and stalking so you want to pay attention here. If he is demanding of your time, and calls or texts you all the time and if he gets mad when you don’t answer in a certain time frame, that is closer to abuse and stalking than it is to love and affection.

That is a warning sign that should not be ignored. But, if he calls you a reasonable amount of times throughout the day to say ‘hi’, or ask how your day is going, he is likely in love with you. Most guys aren’t going to do that unless you are on their mind. Being on their mind almost always means being in their heart, too.

3. If your guy talks about his future plans and he uses the words “we” or “us” that is a good sign. But, if he talks about his future and he says “me” or “I” that sounds a lot like a guy who is planning on being single. That may not mean he doesn’t care about you, but it does sound like he doesn’t expect to be with you for the long term.

Now, obviously, none of these things are fool proof and you have to take his actions as a whole and not one isolated incident at a time. Still, though, if some of these things keep showing up you may want to delve a little deeper into how he feels about you. Your question does he really love me may be being answered already, you just may not want to see it.

 

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

Does he still love me, LOVING COUPLE It is inevitable that most long term relationships will get to a point where things will seem a little less passionate and intense. This can be the stage where insecurities may start to set in. One of the most common insecurities is the belief that your love is over. Asking the questions “does he still love me?” will often be one that you may ask often at this point. (see also Make A Man Commit & How To Handle A Relationship With Emotionally Unavailable Men )

One of the biggest problems is that we as humans are very good at hearing and seeing only those things we want to hear and see. If you aren’t totally sure that the answer to the questions “does he still love me” is a resounding “yes” than you may slowly develop selective hearing and sight.

You may, whether you realize it or not, start to ignore or even make excuses for his behavior if that behavior is contrary to what you want to believe.

That is the hardest part; trying to remain objective and honestly see and recognize signs that he may not feel the same way when you don’t want to see those signs.

And, it is important to realize, that relationships do change and evolve, even good ones. It isn’t uncommon for couples to have a strong intimate relationship for years, but it will still almost always change from the way it was in the beginning.

Having sex a little less frequently or not always having as much time together as you may like can be a part of life. True, it doesn’t have to be that way but it also doesn’t necessarily mean there is a problem.

That is why it is important to view your relationship as a whole and not just micro analyze small fragments. When looking over these questions make sure you take that into consideration.

Here are a few questions you can ask yourself about your relationship. As I stated above, you may be too close to answer them honestly, but your friends and family aren’t.

Ask them for what they think or notice in your relationship. They will usually give you an honest answer if you let them know that you won’t be upset with them (and you follow through on your word and don’t get upset with them if they tell you something you really didn’t want to hear).

Ask yourself these questions:

1. Do the two of you still have a great intimate life together? It isn’t necessarily a sign of trouble if you don’t have sex as often but do you have sex less often because of “real” issues such as an increased work load or being busy with kids, or does he just not seem interested in you anymore at all?

I recently read a study that totally contradicted something that many people have taken as truth for a long time: men do not think of sex every few seconds according to the new study. They do tend to think of basic needs more often then women and that does include sex but they also think of things like eating and having shelter as well as sex.

So, don’t think that just because your sex life isn’t quite what it used to be that you two have a problem. It may be a sign of trouble but it could just be a sign that you both need a nice long vacation too!

2. When he talks about his future (and if he suddenly stops talking about his plans for the future altogether this could be a sign of a problem too) does he include you in it? If all his talk about dreams and future goals start with the word “i” instead of “we” there very well might be a problem.

At minimum he may well be kind of selfish and self centered and at worse he may not be thinking of you being in his future at all.

3. Does he still treat you the way he used to? Unfortunately many people, both men and women, do sometimes start to take each other for granted in a long term relationship and many of the things they used to do for each other tend to fall by the wayside.

I won’t say this is “normal” or even a good thing but it can be common. But, if he really starts treating you dramatically different especially rather suddenly it very well could be a sign that he just doesn’t have the same affection for you that he used to.

Again, any of these things on their own don’t mean much. But, if you notice a pattern and  a few of these traits start showing up it may well be a sign of trouble. Don’t sulk or whine but do ask him what is going on.

Men don’t like to talk about their feelings so he may try to shut you down, but if you are persistent and patient he may open up to you. At the end of the day, you have a right to know and he needs to grow up enough to be able to express himself to you about such an important topic.

You shouldn’t have to wait on pins and needles wondering about the question “does he still love me” he should be man enough to have that conversation even if it isn’t easy for him to do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQZjSuMmvKk&feature=youtube_gdata_player

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

by admin on June 27, 2012

The answer to the question, “Do long distance relationships work?” can be a tricky one and the easy answer would be, “it depends.”

This may sound somewhat non-committal but if you are trying to have a relationship in which you cannot see your beloved in person on a daily basis then it does depend on several factors all coming into play and how you, as a couple, handle them. (see also Make A Man Commit & How To Handle A Relationship With Emotionally Unavailable Men )

So, if you are wondering, “Do long distance relationships work?”, then lets look at these.

Do Long Distance Relationship Work? Advice – 5 Important Factors

1. Trust – There has to be unwavering trust on both sides. Any insecurity, no matter how small, can grow and rear it’s ugly head if there is a lot of geography between the two of you. If there is unwavering trust between you then the fact that you don’t get to see each other everyday won’t be as stressful as it would be otherwise.

2. Communication – There also has to be top-notch communication between the two of you when you are still wondering “Do long distance relationships work?” . Effective communication techniques will keep the two of you up to date with each other’s lives and whatever else is going on

Communication is so much easier these days with the inception of social media. You can make posts in real time and it can seem like your loved one is close by while you are “talking”. Being alone does not mean you have to be lonely all the time.

3. Planning – Attempting to manage two households can be quite the challenge especially if one of you makes more money than the other and the distance between you means that one of you has to struggle financially a little more than the other.

4. Time management – Planning time to be together is of the utmost importance. Making that time quality time doesn’t have to be difficult if the time spent apart is handled well. Every couple has difficulties at times and if they are dealt with immediately and a solution is found and agreed upon then any time you find to spend together can remain positive and loving.

5. Nurture what you have – The two of you should come up with a schedule of sorts to talk or communicate in some way and make it be a part of your daily lives. Make your “dates” mandatory and if one of you has to miss one or will be late make sure there is more communication at the earliest convenient time to make up for the lost time.

Do long distance relationships work, do long distance relationships work out

Having a set time every day to have these “dates” will make each of you continue to feel loved and special in the relationship. Never take for granted that the love will continue to grow if you ignore it because it won’t. You both have to make the effort to nurture what you have until you can find a way to be together all of the time.

Do Long Distance Relationships Work? Reasons to Live Apart

There are many reasons that two people must be separated during their relationship. The biggest reason and the first one many would think about when asked would be that one of you is in the military and has been ordered to go overseas. There a times when your family can go and live in the military housing on the base but not always.

Which means someone stays home.

Another reason that a couple may have to separate is the ability to find work. With this economy being what it is these days I am sure that if a job opened up across the country or even just a state or two away you both made the decision that it would be best to take it and live apart for a while until everything worked out and you could bring your household back together again.

Maybe you met online and have decided to try the distance thing before making any further commitment to the relationship. I know that most of us have seen the movie Sleepless in Seattle, well, that is how some of the most successful relationships start out only these days it is people “meeting” online instead of their child calling into a national radio program.

If this is your case then learning everything there is to know about the other person is easier I think. You do not have all of the pressures of every day life getting in the way. You automatically make time to talk every day because everything is so new and if you can’t see each other then what more is there to do then just talk and learn.

With this very important step basically taking care of itself because of the geographical limitations, there can be a comfort level between you that some couples never find. And when the time comes that you can meet face to face it will be like coming home to an old friend instead of a stranger.

The opposite may be true if you start out as a couple living together and then the separation takes place. If the relationship is not nurtured and communication and trust are lacking then it could be like coming home to a stranger instead of that old friend or someone to whom you have been married to for a while.

Whatever the reason for the separation, taking care and doing what needs to be done for the good of the relationship is the best thing you can do. We talked about a few of the most important of those factors in this article.

It all comes down to having consideration for your spouse or your significant other and putting any and all selfishness aside and following the advise put forth earlier in this article. Doing what is best to keep your family “together” no matter how many miles separate you is the key to you and your spouse or significant other answering the question, “Do long distance relationships work?”

If you both do the work, your efforts will be rewarded a hundredfold with a loving and respectful family that can handle anything that comes down the pike.

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

Girl Gets Ring System Review and Free Tips

by admin on June 13, 2012

Girl Gets Ring is a fairly new informational product that claims to get your boyfriend out of the “I’m not ready” state. The claim is that there are certain factors that hold a man back in a relationship. These roadblocks are caused by the man without him even knowing about it. Once you know about these problems that are causing him to hold back, however, removing them is a cinch. The main point to take before reading any further is that it’s not your fault. Many women’s magazines and reality TV shows lead you to believe there is something wrong with you. This isn’t true. In fact, many men don’t care about the things they talk about in woman magazines and on TV shows. What they genuinely care about they don’t even truly know themselves.

Everything about this product is remarkably well put together. Everything you need to know is well laid out and doesn’t waste your time but gives enough information for you to understand. You start to understand why men pull away from you once things get too serious. You learn all about the certain traps that if fallen into will cause a man to slow down in the relationship. Here are just a few things you will learn if you decide to plunge into the information you need to make a man commit.

Girl Gets Ring and Understanding How a Man Processes Feelings

When a man gets into a relationship he relies on two things, his heart and his gut. His “heart” is where a man will register emotions such as love, while is “gut” will give him feelings and potentially warnings. These feelings are the first step to understanding men and why they don’t always commit to a relationship.

Women process emotions in a totally different manner. In fact, women more often than not understand and can explain their emotions. Men, on the other hand, will offer up excuses such as “I’m just not relationship material”. They are only excuses though, but it’s not the mans fault it’s just how men process emotions.

How Girl Gets Ring Explains Men’s Feelings

When you understand how a man processes emotions and doesn’t put any real thought into them. Then you are ready to understand how a man goes about a relationship and proceeds forward. Men’s feelings work on three different levels. Girl gets ring explains this in great detail, so you can understand why your man is acting the way he does. The key is to know that if he isn’t proceeding in the relationship it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you. It could be other factors holding him back.

First, girl gets ring explains you have your good and positive emotions. Positive emotions trigger the man to move forward in a relationship such as wanting to meet your parents. Then there is the cautious state. When a man feels cautious he might say things like “It’s too soon” or “I’m not ready yet”. This has nothing to do with his actual feelings for you. Your man is simply relying on his gut for advice. Then finally the final emotion is the full stop. This usually leads straight into the “I’m not really relationship material” talk and ends relationships so you want to avoid this if possible.

As you can see, girl gets ring helps you understand that keeping your man’s emotions on full positive to help him move forward. In order to do this you need to remove the barriers that are holding him back and causing him to be cautious. To a man even the little things can lead him to be cautious, though a man might not even know he is judging the little things you do.

Girl Gets Ring Conclusion

As you can see, there is a lot of high value content available in this product. It actually breaks down what men find valuable and lay it all out in an easy to understand way. It’s so easy anybody can understand everything as it’s laid out. Is it worth the asking price though? Personally I couldn’t recommend it enough, but lets look at the pros and cons of the system.

Pros:

  • Easy to follow.
  • Easy to Understand.
  • Not excessively long.
  • Cheaper than You Would Expect.

 

Cons:

  • Takes practice to understand your man’s emotions.
  • Not one size fits all, does fit most.
  • Can become dull at times when expert author repeats himself.
  • Not for free.

 

If you aren’t convinced quite yet then I highly suggest the demo video on their site. It tells an engrossing story and explains a few of the things explained above. I am confident that the video is directly indicative of the quality of content that’s in Girl Gets Ring and couldn’t recommend it enough.

{ Comments on this entry are closed }

Make Him Want You – Something Old, Yet Something New

June 12, 2012

To Make Him Want You Isn’t in Your Closet When was the last time you walked out the door dressed to the nines ready to impress that special gentleman hoping this would make him want you? All dolled up and ready for action you present yourself in colorfully stylish ways hoping to entice a love [...]

click to continue